小狐狸的秘密天空

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一對小兩口生過孩子之後，他們開始了分床而居的生活。白天工作疲憊，晚上應付孩子，                             

漸漸地二人之間的話越來越少。                                                                                         
                                                                                                                       
  女人首先意識到了他們之間潛伏的危機，一天，她對男人說：「我有個鄭重的要求.」                                          
                                                                                                                       
  「什麼要求？」男人漫不經心地問。                                                                                     
                                                                                                                       
  「每天抱我一分鐘」女人說。                                                                                           
                                                                                                                       
  男人看了女人一眼，笑了：「有必要嗎？」                                                                               
                                                                                                                       
  「我提出了這個要求，就証明十分有必要，你發出了這個疑問，就証明更有必要。」                                           
                                                                                                                       
  「情在心裡，何必表達！」                                                                                             
                                                                                                                       
  「當初你要是不表達，我們就不可能結婚。」                                                                             
                                                                                                                       
  「當初是當初，現在不是更深沉了嗎？」                                                                                 
                                                                                                                       
  「不表達未必就是深沉，表達了未必就是矯飾。」                                                                         
                                                                                                                       
  於是兩人吵了起來，最後，為了能早些兒平息戰爭上床安息，男人妥協了。                                                   
  他走到床邊，抱了女人一分鐘，笑道：「你這個虛榮的傢伙。」                                                             
                                                                                                                       
  「每個女人都會對愛情虛榮」她說。                                                                                     
  此後每一天，他都會抽個時間抱她一會兒。漸漸地，兩人的關系充滿了一種新的和諧。                                         
  在每天擁抱的時候，雖然兩人常常什麼也不說，但這種沉默與未擁抱時的沉默在情境與                                         
  意味上有著天壤之別。                                                                                                 
                                                                                                                       
  終于有一天，女人要去長期進修。                                                                                       
   臨上火車前，她對他說：「你終于暫時解脫了。」                                                                        
                                                                                                                       
  「我會想抱你的。」男人笑道。                                                                                         
                                                                                                                       
  果然，她到學院的第二天就接到了丈夫的電話，頓時，她的眼睛里溢滿了深深的淚水。                                         
                                                                                                                       
  的確，對於相愛的男女來說，激情飛越的碰撞之後，婚姻質樸得如一位村姑。人們常常以                                       
  「平淡是真」為借口，逃避對長久擁有的那份感情的麻木和粗糙，卻不明白，如果我們像                                       
  習慣一天天遺落愛情，那樣習慣一天天去經營愛情，那麼，那在我們掌心和胸口的愛情就                                       
  絕對不會冰冷。                                                                                                       
  擁抱是無聲的語言                                                                                                     
                                                                                                                       
  久別重逢、惜別傷離，四目相對，不知說什麼，最好的方法就是張開雙臂、迎向前去，來                                       
  個深深的擁抱。連拳擊比賽都如此，當兩邊筋疲力竭，既打不動，又不希望被打時，最好                                       
  的方法就是擁抱。                                                                                                     
                                                                                                                       
  打球扭傷了背，去復健。醫生先為我電療熱敷了半個鐘頭，又要我躺平，為我指壓。最後                                       
  叫我坐起來，從後面把我緊緊抱住大約五秒鐘，然後氣喘咻咻地說：「好了！覺得如何？」                                     
                                                                                                                       
  我轉轉身子，說「不錯！尤其最後那緊緊一抱，第一次碰到這種治療法，居然有放鬆的效                                       
  果。」                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                       
  醫生笑了：「可見你太少被抱。你不知道擁抱能治百病嗎？回去叫你老婆多抱抱你，像我                                       
  一樣用力、狠狠地抱！一抱解千愁！」                                                                                   
   又聳聳肩說：「現代人哪！太忙、太少抱，錯失了最原始又最有效的身心治療。」                                            
  怪不得兩年前，「免費擁抱（Free Hugs）」活動由澳洲發起之後，一下子就感染了全世界。                                    
  只見有人站在街頭，舉著「Free Hugs」的牌子，願意被擁抱的人只要走過去，就能接受一個                                    
  大大的擁抱。有人說那些舉著牌子的人，才是渴望被擁抱的人，他們希望從陌生路人的身上                                     
  得到慰藉。                                                                                                           
  也有人說他們是願意無條件獻出擁抱的，每個希望被擁抱的人都可以向他們索取。                                             
                                                                                                                       
  我覺得兩邊都有理，但說得最棒的應該是美國著名漫畫家比爾．肯恩（Bill Keane）：「擁抱                                   
  就像丟回力標，能夠得到立即的回抱。」                                                                                 
                                                                                                                       
  關鍵的一抱                                                                                                           
  在丹尼爾．高曼（Daniel Goleman）「SQ（社會智能）」（時報出版．2007）書裡讀到個感                                     
  人的故事──                                                                                                           
  一個三歲的小女孩心情不好，對來看她的叔叔發脾氣。小女孩說：「我討厭你！」                                             
                                                                                                                       
  叔叔微笑著回應：「可是我愛妳。」                                                                                     
                                                                                                                       
  小女孩又說：「我討厭你！」聲音變大，而且斬釘截鐵。                                                                   
                                                                                                                       
 叔叔卻更溫柔地回答：「我還是愛妳。」                                                                                  
                                                                                                                       
  小女孩大喊：「我討厭你！」                                                                                           
                                                                                                                       
  叔叔說：「沒關係，我還是愛妳。」並張開雙臂，把小女孩摟住。                                                           

 小女孩終於軟化：「我也愛你。」整個人投入叔叔的懷抱。多生動的描述啊！                                                  
                                                                                                                       
  幾乎可以看見那小女孩由嬌嗔的小魔鬼，變成溫柔的小綿羊。真正打開她心房的，                                             
  則是那雙伸出的臂膀和緊緊的擁抱。                                                                                     
                                                                                                                       
  人天生喜歡擁抱。小娃娃哭，除了餓，要吃；就是沒有安全感，要擁抱。幾曾見過                                             
  不要大人抱抱的娃娃？那擁抱除了是娃娃對愛的渴望，也表現了他自己的愛。                                                 
                                                                                                                       
  所以當朋友初次把小奶娃交到你懷裡，娃娃居然能不哭的時候，你一定會很得意。                                             
  因為那娃娃顯示了對你的親愛，甚至暗示了你和他父母的交情。老人家碰上了這場                                             
  面，更少不得要高興地說：「瞧！連陌生的娃娃都願意讓我抱，可見我有喜氣，還                                             
  能多活幾年。」                                                                                                       
                                                                                                                       
  「抱抱」對孩子真是太重要了，據心理學家研究：常被抱的孩子就像常被母獸舔舐                                             
  的小動物，因為總覺得媽媽在身邊，有安全感，吃得多也長得快。                                                           
                                                                                                                       
  連放在保溫箱裡照顧的早產兒，雖然不能總被帶出來擁抱，也需要護理人員伸手進                                             
  去撫摸。最新的研究甚至發現，在襁褓期間總被擁抱的娃娃，腦神經的發育不同。                                             
  長大之後，常表現得更樂觀親和。                                                                                       
                                                                                                                       
  只是別以為孩子常要你抱抱，就一定表示你成功。因為當大人情緒不穩定，小娃娃                                             
  也會受到感染而不安，於是動不動就要你抱。你抱他，他才能確定你還愛他。                                                 
 
  何只孩子如此，其實成人也要抱抱，而且非但可以擁抱表示親密，還能宣示友好。                                             
  君不見古裝電影中，兩隊人馬相遇，在敵我不明的情況下，戰鬥一觸即發，突然雙                                             
  方首領跳下馬來，兩臂張開，還把雙手攤得大大的，迎向前去，來個重重的擁抱，                                             
  接著兩隊部屬一片歡呼。                                                                                               
                                                                                                                       
  直到今天，有些民族的男人在擁抱之前，還得作出這麼個誇張的「打開雙手」的動                                             
  作，意思是「我沒帶武器！」 

  可不是嗎？  

  人最重要的器官都在前面，有什麼比「推心置腹」的擁抱，更能顯示肝膽相照？                                               
                                                                                                                       
  連拳擊比賽都如此，當兩邊筋疲力竭，既打不動，又不希望被打時，最好的方法                                               
  就是擁抱。